Wonder Years star Danica McKellar is celebrating her 10-year dateaversary with her husband Scott Sveslosky by sharing some sage advice on a successful marriage. 

McKellar met her groom on October 16, 2013. She had just ended her first marriage with composer Mike Verta the year before, and she was getting back into the dating scene with a coffee shop meetup. But after sitting down with Verta that day, coffee “turned into lunch, which turned into frozen yogurt, which turned into a lifetime together.” The couple said, “I do” on November 14, 2014. 

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As the couple nears their ninth wedding anniversary, Danica McKellar shared some words of wisdom for those looking for new love and those keeping their current love alive. 

Danica McKellar Reminds People to Always Face Relationship Conflicts Head-On

While talking to Fox News Digital, the actress admitted that she, like everyone, would have love advice to tell her younger self. But she noted, “You can’t have the wisdom as an adult you have when you’re a kid, otherwise you wouldn’t be a kid.”

However, if Danica McKellar had the choice, she’d simply give her child self the reassurance that not everything works out as planned, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t work out for the better in the end.

“I mean, the thing I would tell myself when I was younger, and especially when I was wishing that I would find my fairy tale, is ‘It’s going to work out. It might take longer than you expect. You might have to go through a marriage first. It’s going to be hard, but it works out in the end,’” she admitted.

Going through a divorce and working on healthy co-parenting her only child, son Draco (13), has given McKellar a new perspective on love and life. It’s also taught her about setting realistic expectations for marriage and about how to be a good partner. 

“I think the key to any good relationship is not expecting it to be a fairy tale every day and to be willing to put in the work, to be willing to look at what your own expectations are,” she said. 

“When you’re feeling frustrated with something, with a situation, find your part in it. Always. Always. Come to any conversation when there’s conflict with, well, here’s what I could have done better,” she continued. “Always search for it. Hunt for it. Because that’s what you want your partner to do, too, right?”